New Year, New You?
So did you make any New Year resolutions this year?
While the thought of new intentions at the start of a new year seems like a good idea, sticking to them can be harder.
If you want to make a positive change, have you thought about why you created that habit in the first place? And what emotions might be associated with it? It could be a deep-rooted emotion that has been there for so long that it has become part of your regular habits.
We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be something or do something new at this time of year, but what about just appreciating what is good about ourselves and what we have already achieved? Think about why you want to change. Not what. Do you really want to change? It is usually because we want to feel a certain emotion. Whether that be the emotion of acceptance or happiness, we are constantly pursuing emotions we want to feel without realising it.
The 'you' who woke up on 1st January was the same person on 31st December so if you do want to make a change, decide to do it at a time that is right for you which will ensure a greater chance of success. And if you need to use a milestone date (like 1st January) then do it.
Be clear on your purpose and intention and set yourself small, achievable goals. Ask yourself:
What were the best bits about last year?
What might be holding me back in the areas I want to improve?
Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t.
Change “I should be...” into “Why do I want to...?”
Look at what brings you feelings of joy and reflect on how far you have already come. It’s ok if you fail or get it wrong, just try again and focus on doing your best.
The Bach Remedies can help give you some insight and understanding into how you are feeling and how you want to feel. They support the gentle release of any negative emotions you may have or that you didn't realise you have! This is when you are able to truly change what is holding you back.
Chestnut Bud is the remedy used when you find yourself repeating the same mistakes. It helps you to learn and move forward from your past experiences.
Hornbeam is for procrastination or lack of motivation. It is easier to put things off or find something else to do so this remedy will help you find the energy and ability to face it.
Elm is the remedy if you are suffering from overwhelming responsibilities. This remedy gives you the strength to handle hectic days and to look after your own needs.
Larch is for anyone who lacks confidence in their abilities and who are convinced they will fail before they even start. The positive potential of Larch is confidence, to face the challenge or situation.
Walnut is the remedy which helps you adapt to change and protects you from outside influences - when you might doubt yourself after listening to other people’s opinions or beliefs. It helps with any life change or transition - birth, puberty, marriage, divorce, etc. and helps with the ability to adapt and move forward with making changes in your life.
Are there any other of the flower remedies which you think might help you?
Don't be so tough on yourself. One achievable goal or action carried out regularly and consistently will move you towards where you want to be and you will have created a change!
For your own personal remedy mix or for a free, confidential chat about the remedies and how they might support you, get in touch. I would love to hear from you.